Is it ethical for parents to start pressurising their kids as early as class 8th for engineering entrance exam prep?

Ethical? - I am not sure if can answer on the ethicality. Having said that, in our country the principle of "Survival of Fittest" is always true and hence in many ways parents have the responsibility to prepare children for future in the best possible manner. Engineering certainly helps assure them of a better future and somewhat better social status. Also, bear in mind, engineering is perhaps the only branch of study that can get you job fastest compared to any other stream of study, whether it is - medical, law, commerce, humanities or anything else. Four years of study after 12th and minimum social status is almost assured.

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Hello, I am very happy that this question has been asked. Parental pressure is one major source of mental pressure on children. Many a times, it’s not the welfare of the child but simply competition amongst peers of parents that causes this ultimate trauma to kids. It’s so ridiculous to even think of assigning career to a kid studying in 8th standard. The child at that age even does not know the meaning of the word engineering and parents have already thought of putting the kid in the grinder! I think fear factor of the parents is to blame in this case. It is also very interesting to note that this tendency is simply missing in parents of poor background or those having very high income. Parents of middle classes perhaps feel that getting admission in IIT is panacea for all ills. We would be ruining the creativity of the child, his free spirit, his quest to explore the world, quest to explore his own abilities if this tendency of parents is allowed. This brings me to the most celebrated but bizarre system once prevalent and lapped up by parents of a system called Latur Pattern that was followed in Latur Taluqa of Maharashtra. Here syllabus of 12th would be finished almost 9 months before exam date. Then these 9 months were used only to put kids into grind of answering questions in exam pattern. As a result many students suddenly started appearing in merit list from this nondescript place in huge numbers. But at what cost? Mental trauma only. As concepts learning was given a go by, these merit rank holding students could never shine in any field after their 12th. Luckily sense prevailed and after few years this was stopped preventing many more students / kids from undergoing same torture. I therefore strongly feel that it’s most retrograde to even think of doing this.

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Yes, parent's pressure plays a major role in the development of any student but it depends upon the way parents treat their child. And parents are also tied with social status, expectations from the child and settled life. For all these things, they forget to check the interest of their child and give a chance to enhance their dream into reality but generally, parents go with the trend of engineering then going for it without thinking that my child is capable or is he/she is interested in it or not. If he/she is interested in engineering then only try to force them to achieve their dreams. Mainly toppers of IIT start studying since 7th or 8th class as the syllabus is vast and proper training needs to be done then only one can score single or double digit rank. And proper guidance of parents is also needed at all the stages of life. Treat them from class 8th for getting selected easily but do not make this exam their life which may pressurise your ward that if they get failed then what will they do. Tell them, this is the only a stage of life which if you clear then all will turn okay but if not then also there are many options left for them in which they can do better. And, parents one thing, why do you forget that they are also worried about their future so pressurise less and just check if he/she is taking a right path or not. If not then ask and guide them. Thank you!

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