"I want my son to be a DOCTOR", "I will love to see you as an ENGINEER, my son", My daughter would definitely be an "ASTRONAUT" like Kalpana Chawla......and a number of sentences that seems to be a hanging sword on a child's neck sometime. Another topic from myside for discussion, I'm hoping again t... View More
Basically when it started , as you say , parents want their kids to be Engineer or Doctor , that time these two options were known to b the best and most Reputating as well as giving money .But if you feel with the development of may courses except few numbersa , now pnot much parents run after this . Now with the changing phase they also are changig . Now so many career opportunities are there and ppl are changing their mindset. One thing I must say , if you think that you have that calibre wat your parents want 2 make you then go ahead , as they are more experienced than you and you are just a beginner . May be they have seen those h
...more
Basically when it started , as you say , parents want their kids to be Engineer or Doctor , that time these two options were known to b the best and most Reputating as well as giving money .But if you feel with the development of may courses except few numbersa , now pnot much parents run after this . Now with the changing phase they also are changig . Now so many career opportunities are there and ppl are changing their mindset. One thing I must say , if you think that you have that calibre wat your parents want 2 make you then go ahead , as they are more experienced than you and you are just a beginner . May be they have seen those hidden parts , which you are unable to see at this young stage . Otherwise put all the good aspects of the course you wanna joion , its upto you also to some extent to make them understand what you want . Communicate with them on regular basis ,every young student should recover the gap of communication .
less
Basically when it started , as you say , parents want their kids to be Engineer or Doctor , that time these two options were known to b the best and most Reputating as well as giving money .But if you feel with the development of may courses except few numbersa , now pnot much parents run after this . Now with the changing phase they also are changig . Now so many career opportunities are there and ppl are changing their mindset. One thing I must say , if you think that you have that calibre wat your parents want 2 make you then go ahead , as they are more experienced than you and you are just a beginner . May be they have seen those hidden parts , which you are unable to see at this young stage .
Otherwise put all the good aspects of the course you wanna joion , its upto you also to some extent to make them understand what you want . Communicate with them on regular basis ,every young student should recover the gap of communication .
Thats a wastage of course. I have seen people doing MBBS because parents wanted and the did architecture for a career as s/he wanted it. such similar contrast. Its a wastage of national resources due to parent pressure. -Prof Swapan Garain (http://www.linkedin.com/in/Garain)
Thats a wastage of course. I have seen people doing MBBS because parents wanted and the did architecture for a career as s/he wanted it. such similar contrast. Its a wastage of national resources due to parent pressure.
-Prof Swapan Garain (<a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.linkedin.com/in/Garain" style='word-wrap:break-word;'>http://www.linkedin.com/in/Garain</a>)
"I want my son / daughter to be so & so" is a typical expression of projection in the form of unfulfilled desires of the parent(s), which is the outcome of THEIR aspirations at a particular point of time.There is some immaturity on part of the parents in this, because they are not standing in the shoes of their offspring.Moreover, the anxiety about the well-being and career of the child always comes into play as a natural instinct. A son or a daughter cannot express fully as to what he/she wants to become-partly because of family pressure,partly because of peer pressure, and partly because he is not fully aware of his own capabilities,
...more
"I want my son / daughter to be so & so" is a typical expression of projection in the form of unfulfilled desires of the parent(s), which is the outcome of THEIR aspirations at a particular point of time.There is some immaturity on part of the parents in this, because they are not standing in the shoes of their offspring.Moreover, the anxiety about the well-being and career of the child always comes into play as a natural instinct. A son or a daughter cannot express fully as to what he/she wants to become-partly because of family pressure,partly because of peer pressure, and partly because he is not fully aware of his own capabilities, apart from what all exists in the job market, in which he may fit into. A series of aptitude tests starting from the levelclass9th,and going up to class12 can definitely help. Also, at the pre-graduation stage, his MBTI displaying the basic behavioural type and mental typology can be exposed,which also suggests the typical jobs for the individual.
less
"I want my son / daughter to be so & so" is a typical expression of projection in the form of unfulfilled desires of the parent(s), which is the outcome of THEIR aspirations at a particular point of time.There is some immaturity on part of the parents in this, because they are not standing in the shoes of their offspring.Moreover, the anxiety about the well-being and career of the child always comes into play as a natural instinct.
A son or a daughter cannot express fully as to what he/she wants to become-partly because of family pressure,partly because of peer pressure, and partly because he is not fully aware of his own capabilities, apart from what all exists in the job market, in which he may fit into.
A series of aptitude tests starting from the levelclass9th,and going up to class12 can definitely help. Also, at the pre-graduation stage, his MBTI displaying the basic behavioural type and mental typology can be exposed,which also suggests the typical jobs for the individual.
I do 100% agree with Mr Gautam Joshi. But what are the steps can be taken to solve this problems we must have to think on that directions. I know this is really very difficult task to change anyone's mindset. I recommend Shiksha that they must take some step ahead and do some career awareness Seminars for the parents by some of the shiksha experts in various locations by this we can create some sort of awareness among the students as well as their parents. By this way only we can stop this myth.
I do 100% agree with Mr Gautam Joshi. But what are the steps can be taken to solve this problems we must have to think on that directions. I know this is really very difficult task to change anyone's mindset.
I recommend Shiksha that they must take some step ahead and do some career awareness Seminars for the parents by some of the shiksha experts in various locations by this we can create some sort of awareness among the students as well as their parents. By this way only we can stop this myth.
How many students have clear picture of they want to be their idea is more like a fictional movie they want to go to space but t5hey do not know how In most of cases parents provide a guideline so they can achieve goal X want to become software game designer so either he has to do Engineering in CS OR BCA then MCA so now just leaving the kids to chase their imagination and dream will lead them nowhere stress for anything is bad it is agreed but telling parents in general to leave the child is baseless
How many students have clear picture of they want to be their idea is more like a fictional movie they want to go to space but t5hey do not know how In most of cases parents provide a guideline so they can achieve goal X want to become software game designer so either he has to do Engineering in CS OR BCA then MCA so now just leaving the kids to chase their imagination and dream will lead them nowhere stress for anything is bad it is agreed but telling parents in general to leave the child is baseless
researches have proved that children do better or achieve higher when they are expected so it means there is nothing wrong in parents expectation or suggesting a career for their child if they have a close association and they observe their child and help them time to time children certainly show better result what is the problem ?Parents are busy with their own schedule they hardly spend quality or quantity time criticize their children for their weakness instead providing help.
researches have proved that children do better or achieve higher when they are expected so it means there is nothing wrong in parents expectation or suggesting a career for their child if they have a close association and they observe their child and help them time to time children certainly show better result what is the problem ?Parents are busy with their own schedule they hardly spend quality or quantity time criticize their children for their weakness instead providing help.
Well parent's expectations from their children is no wrong but yes when these expectations start building undue pressure then that leads the child which may or may not be at par with the parent's expectation but even does not leave the student happy. The satisfaction is no where because the student fails to gain interest. Biut there are students who actually work hard and try to build interest and this way they are able to balance both the expectation of their parents and self interest.
Well parent's expectations from their children is no wrong but yes when these expectations start building undue pressure then that leads the child which may or may not be at par with the parent's expectation but even does not leave the student happy. The satisfaction is no where because the student fails to gain interest.
Biut there are students who actually work hard and try to build interest and this way they are able to balance both the expectation of their parents and self interest.
Well, in my experience, things are a little different. During my childhood, my parents saw my convincing skills and always recommended me to be a counselor(they never asked me to choose the education line, i chose it on my own). I would say that parents should understand the child's requirements and capabilities and accordingly choose a career for him. They should also keep this thing into consideration that the child should be comfortable with the career his/her parents have chosen for him and should support the child if he is not interested in the career they choose for him/her. I do not support those parents who "PUSH" their childre
...more
Well, in my experience, things are a little different. During my childhood, my parents saw my convincing skills and always recommended me to be a counselor(they never asked me to choose the education line, i chose it on my own). I would say that parents should understand the child's requirements and capabilities and accordingly choose a career for him. They should also keep this thing into consideration that the child should be comfortable with the career his/her parents have chosen for him and should support the child if he is not interested in the career they choose for him/her. I do not support those parents who "PUSH" their children but in my case, i am very thankful to my folks.
less
Well, in my experience, things are a little different. During my childhood, my parents saw my convincing skills and always recommended me to be a counselor(they never asked me to choose the education line, i chose it on my own). I would say that parents should understand the child's requirements and capabilities and accordingly choose a career for him. They should also keep this thing into consideration that the child should be comfortable with the career his/her parents have chosen for him and should support the child if he is not interested in the career they choose for him/her.
I do not support those parents who "PUSH" their children but in my case, i am very thankful to my folks.
@ Gautam, the only problem is some parents due to family prestige or social status force their children for such subjects. And yes, most of the people only know Doctors and Engineerings as professionals!!
@ Gautam, the only problem is some parents due to family prestige or social status force their children for such subjects. And yes, most of the people only know Doctors and Engineerings as professionals!!
Yes, I agree with Mr. Gautam that there should be counselling but more than students I feel parents should be counselled when students reach the age where they have to make a career decision.
Yes, I agree with Mr. Gautam that there should be counselling but more than students I feel parents should be counselled when students reach the age where they have to make a career decision.
Wow!! Something close to my heart. Thanx Gautam. There are two things in life what you want and what you get. They say"Try and get what you want else you may have to be happy with what you have".Seeing so many posts on Shiksha by kids who are either doing Engg shifting to medicine or vice-versa /bio to commerce, your topic makes more sense. Children are not the dream catchers of parents . and the courses which they do not love /have interest and aptitude should not be imposed on them.
Wow!! Something close to my heart. Thanx Gautam. There are two things in life what you want and what you get. They say"Try and get what you want else you may have to be happy with what you have".Seeing so many posts on Shiksha by kids who are either doing Engg shifting to medicine or vice-versa /bio to commerce, your topic makes more sense. Children are not the dream catchers of parents . and the courses which they do not love /have interest and aptitude should not be imposed on them.
If a child is actually passionate and willing to follow his dream and put in the hard work then its for the parents to support him in his ambition.But in majority cases the children themselves are confused so as to what course of study they should .I would simply suggest that the parents be realistic in their expectations and should never draw comparisons as no two individuals are same.Putting one's child down by comparing him /her to some one who is academically stronge only hampers his confidence and frustrates the child.
If a child is actually passionate and willing to follow his dream and put in the hard work then its for the parents to support him in his ambition.But in majority cases the children themselves are confused so as to what course of study they should .I would simply suggest that the parents be realistic in their expectations and should never draw comparisons as no two individuals are same.Putting one's child down by comparing him /her to some one who is academically stronge only hampers his confidence and frustrates the child.
Firstly the parents should be the one to check the interest of their child. Often I have seen children good at something but they themselves don't realize it this is where the parents should motivate the child and show him his qualities but this is not the case. And then of course comes what Mr.Joshi has mentioned, My child will become an engineer or doctor or astronaut etc. neglecting the talent that their child possesses. Thanks Gautam for coming out with such an important topic of discussion, I request all the experts specially the parents to participate and express their views on this.
Firstly the parents should be the one to check the interest of their child. Often I have seen children good at something but they themselves don't realize it this is where the parents should motivate the child and show him his qualities but this is not the case. And then of course comes what Mr.Joshi has mentioned, My child will become an engineer or doctor or astronaut etc. neglecting the talent that their child possesses.
Thanks Gautam for coming out with such an important topic of discussion, I request all the experts specially the parents to participate and express their views on this.
This website uses Cookies and related technologies for the site to function correctly and securely, improve & personalise your browsing experience, analyse traffic, and support our marketing efforts and serve the Core Purpose. By continuing to browse the site, you agree to Privacy Policy and Cookie Policy.
Basically when it started , as you say , parents want their kids to be Engineer or Doctor , that time these two options were known to b the best and most Reputating as well as giving money .But if you feel with the development of may courses except few numbersa , now pnot much parents run after this . Now with the changing phase they also are changig . Now so many career opportunities are there and ppl are changing their mindset. One thing I must say , if you think that you have that calibre wat your parents want 2 make you then go ahead , as they are more experienced than you and you are just a beginner . May be they have seen those h...more
"I want my son / daughter to be so & so" is a typical expression of projection in the form of unfulfilled desires of the parent(s), which is the outcome of THEIR aspirations at a particular point of time.There is some immaturity on part of the parents in this, because they are not standing in the shoes of their offspring.Moreover, the anxiety about the well-being and career of the child always comes into play as a natural instinct.
I do 100% agree with Mr Gautam Joshi. But what are the steps can be taken to solve this problems we must have to think on that directions. I know this is really very difficult task to change anyone's mindset.
Well parent's expectations from their children is no wrong but yes when these expectations start building undue pressure then that leads the child which may or may not be at par with the parent's expectation but even does not leave the student happy. The satisfaction is no where because the student fails to gain interest.
Well, in my experience, things are a little different. During my childhood, my parents saw my convincing skills and always recommended me to be a counselor(they never asked me to choose the education line, i chose it on my own). I would say that parents should understand the child's requirements and capabilities and accordingly choose a career for him. They should also keep this thing into consideration that the child should be comfortable with the career his/her parents have chosen for him and should support the child if he is not interested in the career they choose for him/her.
Wow!! Something close to my heart. Thanx Gautam. There are two things in life what you want and what you get. They say"Try and get what you want else you may have to be happy with what you have".Seeing so many posts on Shiksha by kids who are either doing Engg shifting to medicine or vice-versa /bio to commerce, your topic makes more sense. Children are not the dream catchers of parents . and the courses which they do not love /have interest and aptitude should not be imposed on them.
If a child is actually passionate and willing to follow his dream and put in the hard work then its for the parents to support him in his ambition.But in majority cases the children themselves are confused so as to what course of study they should .I would simply suggest that the parents be realistic in their expectations and should never draw comparisons as no two individuals are same.Putting one's child down by comparing him /her to some one who is academically stronge only hampers his confidence and frustrates the child.